When a couple decides to get a divorce, they have options. The continuum of divorce processes range from a kitchen table or “pro se” process where the parties work on their own all the way to a full litigation in front of a court. Â All of the following processes result in a final divorce and resolution of all issues. Each process is unique and may work for you.
Pro Se/Kitchen Table
What is it:Â Parties work out resolutions all on their own; may draft up the papers on their own or fill out online papers directly with the Court.
Pros/Cons:Â Can be quick and nearly free, but requires an ability to work together. Neither party received legal advice.
Mediation
What is it:Â Parties work out resolutions with a neutral third-arty mediator; lawyers may or may not be involved. Â Once resolutions are reached, the parties may draft up the papers on their own or hire attorneys to provide legal advice and draft up the divorce papers.
Pros/Cons:Â Can be quick, but requires an ability to make decisions for yourself, sometimes without legal advice.
Collaborative Law
What is it: Parties  each have an attorney and work out resolutions in a settlement-focused, out-of-court process; other specialists can be involved, such as a financial specialist, child specialist or coach.
Pros/Cons: Thorough process that can address all issues with legal advice and other specialists, but requires ability to make decisions in one’s own best interest.
Litigation/Court Process
What is it:Â Parties present their case to a third-party decision-maker for adjudication of the issues.
Pros/Cons:Â Parties have little control over the pacing of the process; but attorneys are typically involved throughout.
Once you learn about the processes, you should meet with a
professional to learn which process is best for you.
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