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By Melissa Miroslavich and Katrina Viegas

As collaboratively trained attorneys, we often find ourselves in a unique position—advocating fiercely for our clients while simultaneously collaborating with the other side to achieve a mutually beneficial outcome. It’s a dance we’ve perfected through our training in the collaborative process and mediation, and it’s a dynamic that serves our clients exceptionally well, especially when it comes to those sometimes-uncomfortable but essential conversations.

You might be thinking, “Uncomfortable conversations? About what?” Well, if you or someone you know is getting ready to say, “I Do,” let’s talk about prenuptial agreements—or as they’re legally known in Minnesota, antenuptial agreements. It’s a topic that often carries a bit of a stigma, conjuring images of distrust or a lack of romance. But what if we told you that, much like thoughtful estate planning, a prenuptial agreement can actually be an act of love and a foundation for a stronger, more financially harmonious marriage?

We recently found ourselves discussing Minnesota’s updated prenup law, which took effect last year on August 1, 2024. As two attorneys who believe in proactive planning, we immediately recognized the opportunity to shed light on how the collaborative process can transform this often-dreaded task into a positive and empowering experience.

Melissa – Let’s Talk About the ‘Why’ – What Exactly is a Prenup, and Who Benefits?

From my perspective as a legal advocate, a prenup is a vital tool for clarity. It’s a private, binding contract that two people of legal age enter into before marriage. It outlines what happens with your assets and debts if your marriage ends due to legal separation, divorce, or even death. I know, you’re thinking nobody gets married expecting to get divorced, but with financial problems being a leading cause of marital breakdown, having these conversations before the ‘I Do’ can actually strengthen the foundation of your relationship.

Katrina – And from the Collaborative Angle, it’s About Financial Harmony, Not Just Protection.

While it offers legal protection, the beauty of a prenup, especially when approached collaboratively, is its power to foster financial harmony. It’s not just about what happens if things go wrong, but about how you manage expectations and communicate about money during your marriage. For all couples, it can open lines of communication. But if you own a business, help with a family farm, or have children from a previous relationship, it’s especially critical to proactively address the needs and wishes of everyone involved—from your soon-to-be spouse to business partners and other loved ones.

Katrina – Minnesota’s Updated Law: The New Rules of Engagement.

As an attorney, I want to make sure people are aware of the latest changes in Minnesota law. Effective August 1, 2024, two big things happened. First, timing is everything. You now need to sign your prenup at least seven days in advance of your wedding day for it to be presumed enforceable. If you sign it closer than that, it’s not automatically valid. So, procrastination is out when it comes to prenups! Ideally, this process begins at least two to six months in advance of your wedding date, sometimes even earlier.

Melissa – And the Collaborative Spirit of ‘Fairness’ is Still Paramount, Even with Legal Shifts.

The second change impacts how ‘consideration’ is determined. While a prenup is a contract that requires some kind of benefit in exchange for entering the agreement, Minnesota now recognizes the marriage itself as adequate consideration for the prenup to be valid. What this means is, as long as all other legal requirements are met, the court won’t automatically scrutinize the prenup for ‘fairness’ to both spouses. However, in the collaborative process, we still work to ensure the agreement actually feels fair to both parties, fostering a sense of mutual respect and understanding that goes beyond legal technicalities.

Melissa – So, How Do We Get This Done?

When clients come to me needing a prenup, I always lay out their options, including a collaborative process or a more traditional process. The traditional path can involve each partner hiring their own attorney, one side drafts the prenup and offers it to the other side, and we negotiate. It can be effective, but sometimes adversarial. An attorney’s priority is to protect their own client’s interests, not the client’s relationship or future spouse.

Katrina – Or, How We Guide You to a Stronger Start: The Collaborative Approach.

And that’s where the collaborative process shines as the preferred path for many couples. Think about it: you’re planning a wedding, a celebration of two individuals joining their lives together in partnership. Why not choose a legal process that supports that same spirit? As collaboratively trained attorneys, we work with you, not just for you, to transform a potentially stressful legal process into an experience that can actually strengthen your relationship.

In the collaborative model, we help you:

  • Co-Create a Shared Vision: We facilitate open and respectful conversations about your financial future, helping you develop a vision for your marriage that aligns with both your individual and shared financial goals.
  • Receive Individualized Guidance in a Supported Environment: Each soon-to-be spouse receives individual legal advice about their rights and responsibilities. This isn’t about one person winning; it’s about both parties understanding their positions and finding common ground.
  • Bring in Financial Expertise: We often work with a collaborative financial professional. They help you identify and understand all your assets, liabilities, and cash flow, ensuring full and transparent disclosure. This level of understanding is key to making informed decisions together.

Ultimately, whether through the collaborative or traditional process, attorneys draft the prenup, seek consensus from both of you, and ensure it’s signed at least one full week before your wedding day. The benefit of the collaborative process is starting with your goals as a couple, and then drafting, not the other way around.

Want to learn more about how the collaborative process can help you navigate this important step before your “I Do”? Contact Melissa Miroslavich or Katrina Viegas for more information about collaborative prenuptial services and to schedule a no-cost consult. Both Melissa and Katrina have been accepted into the Collaborative Law Institute of Minnesota and are honored to serve on its Board of Directors. Katrina is the current Co-President and Melissa serves as Chair of the Public Education Committee.

About the Authors

Melissa Miroslavich is a dedicated and experienced estate planning and collaborative attorney. She expertly guides individuals and families through the often complex processes of planning for the future. With a compassionate and thoughtful approach, Melissa helps clients navigate sensitive matters, including collaborative prenuptial and postnuptial agreements, ensuring their wishes are honored and fostering peaceful resolutions. Her expertise in both legal strategy and collaborative communication makes her a valuable advocate and trusted advisor.

At Miroslavich Law, we understand that planning for the future requires careful consideration and a personalized touch. Whether you’re in the Twin Cities, or the surrounding areas in Minnesota, and need assistance with estate planning, business succession planning or prenuptial agreements, we are here to provide you with clear guidance and support. Contact Miroslavich Law today to take the first step towards securing your future and finding peaceful solutions.

Melissa Miroslavich, Estate Planning Attorney, Mediator
Miroslavich Law PLLC
Email: Info@MiroslavichLaw.com
Website: www.miroslavichlaw.com

Katrina M. Viegas,
Partner/Attorney & Rule 114 Family Mediator
Beaumier Trogdon Orman Hurd & Viegas Attorneys at Law, PLLP
4 West Fifth Street, Duluth, MN 55806
Ph: (218) 722-1000 | Email: kviegas@btolawyers.com
Website: www.btolawyers.com

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173298780-mid-adult-woman-toying-with-gold-wedding-gettyimagesHaving friends scattered throughout the country has shown me just how drastic divorce proceedings and turnarounds can be. My friend in Baltimore, Maryland, who was married for 5 years with no kids, had no battles over property division, and her divorce still took just over 2.5 years to complete, including a mandatory year of separation before filing (this law has since changed recently for those without children). A friend in Milwaukee, Wisconsin, her divorce with one child and a business involved, took just 6 months to the date. And my good friends (haha), Miranda Lambert and Blake Shelton’s Oklahoma divorce after four years of marriage complete with pre-nup and no kids, took just days from when they filed. Here in Minnesota the length of time to complete a divorce depends upon several things, including custody, parenting time, child support, and division of debts and property. It can take anywhere from about 6 weeks to a year and a half or more, depending upon whether the parties are cooperating, and depending upon the issues involved. The length of a divorce also largely depends on how the case is resolved. For example, divorcing collaboratively, where both party’s attorneys agree to settle without going to trial and the underlying threat of litigation, can significantly reduce the time it take to complete the divorce for several reasons, the biggest factor being avoiding months awaiting a divorce trial. Divorce is the time to practice patience, and to always prepare yourself for the divorce process to take longer than anticipated. Even in our instant gratification society where you can have Amazon deliver within the hour, your divorce could take months to years. No matter how long your divorce proceedings may take it is important to remember that divorce never really ends with a “victory” by either party. Both parties typically leave the marriage with substantially less material wealth than they started with prior to the divorce. Occasionally, you may hear about a spouse receiving a very large settlement or substantial alimony compensation. But more commonly, both spouses must compromise in order to reach an agreement. If there are any real “winners” in the process, it’s those who maintain positive relationships with an ex-spouse so that they are able to successfully co-parent their children.
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A recent article, “For gay couples, divorce comes with extra costs” describes the difficulties some people have faced in getting a same-sex divorce. Some of the difficulties identified have been addressed in Minnesota’s recent same-sex civil marriage legislation and others are not unique to same-sex couples. Here are the problems identified in that article and my thoughts. Problem: Courts haven’t figured out how to handle these new same-sex marriage divorce cases. The recent legislation in Minnesota addresses this issue by making it clear that all existing laws dealing with “marriage” now apply to the new same-sex marriages. This includes all laws concerning divorce which have been in effect for decades. The courts in Minnesota will apply the same divorce rules and procedures for divorcing same-sex marriages. Problem: Location, location, location. Many couples travelled to a state recognizing same-sex marriages in order to be married but now reside elsewhere, in a state where same-sex marriages are not legal. States that don’t recognize same-sex marriages won’t grant a divorce to a couple whose marriage is viewed as unlawful. Can the couple return to the state where they married to get divorced? Most states have a residency requirement, typically residing for six months in that state, before a divorce proceeding may be initiated in that state. The Minnesota legislation addresses this problem. It allows a divorce action in Minnesota even if neither party resides in Minnesota if the civil marriage was performed in Minnesota and neither party resides in a state which recognizes same-sex marriage and allows divorce actions for such marriages. So, if a same-sex couple married in Minnesota and later moved to Wisconsin where same-sex marriages are not legal, they can be divorced in Minnesota. Problem: Time together: Reality vs. legality. Many same-sex couples lived together for years before being able to legally marry. During the years or decades before marriage, they acquired assets, bought homes together, shared expenses, acquired debt, and commingled their finances. Yet, under traditional divorce law, it is only assets and debts acquired during the marriage that are considered. This is also a problem for straight couples who live together for years before marrying or who never marry. When their relationships end and they need to divide their assets and debts, divorce laws don’t help them. Unless they entered into a prenuptial agreement addressing how these assets and debts acquired before the marriage would be divided, or if never married – a contract addressing these issues, they would have a difficult time finding an efficient legal remedy for their situation. Litigating these issues in court will be expensive. These issues can be addressed in the collaborative process, which is not limited to divorces, and where people with unique problems and issues not adequately addressed in traditional law forums can reach agreements. Once agreements have been reached, these agreements can be filed with the court and made into enforceable court orders.
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Prenuptial agreements – “What’s Love Got to Do With It?” For people planning their wedding, the thought of entering into a prenuptial agreement may seem unromantic and pessimistic. It addresses what would happen if your marriage doesn’t work out. But a well thought out prenuptial agreement can give you and your spouse control over the terms of your divorce, if that should happen, helping you avoid future litigation, and it also can be a process for discovering your expectations and views about financial issues. In Minnesota, to enter into a valid and enforceable prenuptial agreement, you must sign a written agreement before two witnesses and a notary public before you are married. The agreement must include a full disclosure of each person’s income and property and a statement that each has had an opportunity to consult with legal counsel of their choice before signing the agreement. The better practice is to enter into such an agreement well before the wedding date so each of you has an opportunity to consult with their own attorney. The issues which are most often addressed in prenuptial agreements are deciding how property and debts existing at the time of marriage and acquired during the marriage will be divided in the event of divorce. Some agreements address whether there will be spousal support (alimony) awarded in a divorce and how much will be awarded. These agreements are generally enforced by Minnesota courts unless there are extreme inequities resulting from enforcement at the time of the divorce. Agreements on child custody and child support are not enforceable as part of prenuptial agreements in Minnesota. The court in a divorce examines the best interests of the children at the time of the divorce in deciding who should have custody, what the parenting time should be, and how much child support should be paid. Couples who have acquired substantial assets before the marriage, who have been married before and have children, or who want to preserve their estate plans for their adult children from previous marriages, enter into prenuptial agreements to ensure that their goals and financial expectations are followed in the event of a divorce. These are not the only couples who may need prenuptial agreements. For example, with the recent legalization of same-sex marriages in Minnesota, some-same sex couples contemplating marriage may need to consult with legal counsel to learn the differences in how their income and property will be treated once married under Minnesota law and whether a prenuptial agreement may be appropriate. Professionals are available for consultations on these issues. The collaborative process gives couples (not the court) the power to shape their future financial destiny. The collaborative process also ensures that the needs and interests of each person are addressed, with full disclosure of financial information, advocacy for each person and neutral professional financial and other advice. Making sure each of you have the information you need is what love has to do with it.