With the new year comes new beginnings, and while your divorce may have you feeling like everything is spinning out of your control, let’s start 2016 with you IN control. Take some time to journal about what you want 2016 to look like for YOU. Even those ideas that may not seem realistic right now, write those down too. Goal setting is often a combination of what is realistic and attainable, and what will take you out of your comfort zone and at times may even seem nearly impossible. Look at various aspects of your life and reflect on what you want each chapter to look like – dating, co-parenting, your career, mind & body, hobbies (both new and old), faith, travel, finances, etc. If you are more of a visual person and less of a journal writer, jot down key words and make a Pinterest board for each of these categories. Add photos, articles, and inspiring words to each board to help you to stay on track and motivated throughout the year. Write YOUR story. Paint YOUR picture. This is YOUR life to live how YOU choose, let 2016 be the year you take control. Don’t let your divorce or other aspects of your past define you, let YOU define YOU. The new year brings a time of reflection. Often times people look back on the year and choose to either focus at how blessed they were, or will happily say “good riddance” to the year they are putting behind them. If you are feeling the later in regards to 2015, rather than sulking, let’s embrace the new year with positivity, and vow to make it positively fabulous! A fitting quote by Chris Butler, “Mirror, mirror on the wall, I’ll always get up when I fall, and whether I walk, run, or crawl, I’ll set my goals and achieve them all.” Here’s to YOU in 2016!