Collaborative Law Institute Blog – Family Law Attorneys & Professionals
Negotiating Better Outcomes in Divorce
Understanding the difference between interests and positions could make all of the difference in helping you negotiate a better outcome in your divorce. Position-Based Bargaining: Most people have a tendency to negotiate by arguing in favor of their positions. In...
Uncontested Divorce: Should We do it Ourselves?
Have you ever wondered about how to do something that felt daunting but maybe not super complicated (baking a perfect soufflé, building a patio, learning to golf) and decided to follow the advice to “Just look on YouTube!” So you find several videos on...
Top Tips to help you Thrive Financially
Your divorce is over. It’s time to start sorting through all the things you need to do, to get your financial life in order. Here are just a few tips to help you thrive financially, as you move into this phase of your life. Pay Off Credit Card Debt One of the...
ASD, Lockdowns, and Valentine’s Day 2018 – Part 2
April is Autism Awareness Month, the two month anniversary of the Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School shooting, and the 19th anniversary of Columbine. Why talk about ASD and school shootings in the same sentence? And why a divorce blog? I will get to that. But as...
Counseling at Law (part 2)
Last time I wrote about some of the realities of the divorce process and some of the different ways by which a final divorce decree can be created. It may have come as a surprise to learn that a couple has enormous legal autonomy to create their own decree, but...
Counselling at Law
I am a Counselor at Law. I have been for more than 37 years, although I’m not sure how valuable my counsel would have been then. Today, most of the questions I’m asked center around divorce. -My wife/husband wants a divorce. -How long will this take? -How...
ASD, Lockdowns, and Valentine’s Day 2018 – Part 1
OK – this has nothing to do with divorce – or maybe it does. Valentine’s Day. Yes, I know, it was two weeks ago. And for people going through divorce, Valentine’s Day was perhaps just another day. On the other hand, if you have young children, they exude an energy...
Unbundled Divorce: Getting just the right amount of legal help
There is a “new” way of going through divorce that puts clients in charge. It’s called “Unbundled Legal Service” and it means that the clients get to have legal advice without having the lawyers take over the full case. This allows clients to get legal advice, and...
Should Your Spousal Support Increase with the Cost of Living?
Spousal support that lasts more than a couple years may be subject to cost of living adjustments (COLAs). This is negotiated as part of your divorce settlement. As the cost of living goes up, spousal support can increase as well, to meet its intent of maintaining the...
Three Stories of Empathy
Empathy is the word for the capacity to understand another person’s perspective or experience without necessarily agreeing with it. Empathy allows humans to be in synch and resonate with each other in spite of differences. There is plentiful scientific and...
